It is so rare in today’s world to give oneself permission to relax and do nothing. Yet our body and mind need those moments of relaxation to recover from the constant demands of a production-based society. Doing rather than being is how most of us are programmed to spend our time.
Throughout our lives, doing is what we are rewarded for. And doing is mostly not enough. We also need to do things very well. Our sense of identity is generally linked to the things we do, and not to who we are. Doing things well enough and being recognised for them plays a major role in one’s self-esteem and self worth.
The recognition or ‘strokes’ we strive for can be linked back to the parental love we much longed for as children. For most of us recognition, praise and validation wasn’t freely given, but hard earned through what was culturally deemed as achievements and successes.
Are we ultimately still children striving for parental recognition, or are we adults making conscious choices in our lives?