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Online Therapy

We spend much of our lives online these days and increasingly more services are available online that traditionally would have been conducted face to face. This is the same with psychotherapy and counselling, and there is a growing availability of online therapy services around on the internet. So, is online therapy for you?

There are many ways to engage in therapy online, but for the purposes of this blog I’ll be considering online therapy that uses live video. This can be done with apps such as: Skype, Zoom, WhatsApp, FaceTime, BotIM etc. Whatever app is used, the most important thing to consider is the security. Only use an app that has a secure and encrypted connection.

There are many benefits to having therapy online and the most obvious might be the convenience of it. Rather than having to spend time travelling to a clinic, you can be at a location of your choice where you feel comfortable. This might be at home, in a private office at work during your lunch break, or anywhere where it is confidential and you won’t be overheard or disturbed. However, you will need to consider what you will do after the session has ended. Do you have time to compose yourself before you step outside the room and back to the office or family life?

Another benefit of working online is that you might have a greater choice of therapists available to you. Rather than having to choose those in your local area, you can work with the therapist of your choice wherever they are in the country. This can be particularly beneficial if you live in a remote area, or live abroad and want a therapist who speaks your native language. Additionally, if you travel around a lot, it can make it possible to access therapy wherever you might be.

Another advantage of online therapy is that it can make it easier to engage with therapy if you are anxious about going to a clinic in the first place, or have any difficulties with leaving home or accessing certain locations. Being able to engage with your therapist online can remove any of these potential barriers and you can get the support you need.

A lot of people wonder if online therapy is as good as face to face therapy, and that is an important point to consider. Certainly, there is a big difference. The rapport and connection you have face to face with a therapist will be different to what you build online. Some of the non-verbal clues to communication can be lost online so it’s important to be able to tell your therapist if they haven’t understood you, or if you don’t understand them. However, once you get used to working online with a therapist, the distance and technology can ‘disappear’ and you can feel very connected with your therapist.

Here are a few points you might want to consider if you want to access therapy online:

  • You will need to have a good, stable internet connection for the duration of your session.
  • It is best to have a few connection options available – such as wifi and data, and a couple of different options of apps – such as Skype and Zoom, to allow for tech difficulties.
  • You need to be comfortable working online and familiar with the tech you are using. It’s a good idea to turn off any notifications for the duration of your session as these are very distracting when you are trying to work with your therapist.
  • You need to ensure that the location you are in is private and confidential.
  • You should check the credentials and qualifications of your therapist before you engage in any online therapy. There is a growing number of people setting up online as ‘therapists’ with little or no training. Make sure your therapist is registered with a professional body such as UKCP.

Dr Simon Cassar is an integrative existential therapist, trained in Person Centred Therapy, Psychodynamic Therapy, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavioural Therapy (DBT), and Existential Psychotherapy. He is available in our Hove and Lewes clinics and also works online.

Further reading by Dr Simon Cassar –

Student mental health – how to stay healthy at university

Four domains – maintaining wellbeing in turbulent times

What is an integrative existential therapist?

What is Existential Psychotherapy – Video

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Relationships, networks and connections

How many of us are seldom more than an arms length from our mobile phone? Our bags, clothing, even our sports wear is designed with special pockets for its’ safe keeping. For most of us it has infiltrated every sphere of  life, a constant companion. Staying connected has never been so easy. Mobiles are for people (like us) on the move – always contactable – but never confined. As long as we are never too far from a power source and a signal we can bridge the gap between together and apart. It is a familiar modern experience to encounter, in a public space, a café, a bus, a pedestrian walkway, others, eyes down ensconced in their device. For many of us it feels jarring, not least because we know that we are not immune to the same behaviour. We no longer seek the eyes as a point of entry into the world of another.

Virtual proximity

Ours is a time when proximity no longer requires physical closeness just as physical closeness no longer determines proximity. Virtual proximity renders human connection simultaneously more frequent and more shallow, more intense and more brief. Getting in touch is no obstacle to staying apart. Notions of community have shifted with the tides of of socio political, economic and technological time. So too has our relationship to home. We now slip into our separate houses, more often our separate room’s bypassing the shared spaces, seeking ‘our own space’. The virtual ‘network’ is now the place we gather, the new village square, the new community, residing behind each closed door. We are lonelier than ever… more connected than ever.

Reflection

This is not a a condemnation of technology or technological innovation, how ignorant and foolish that would be. Rather it is an expression of concern about a gradual erosion of social and relational skills, of face to face, up front and personal human interaction. The more our attentions are absorbed in a virtual kind of proximity do we risk losing these skills ? Might we fail to learn them in the first place or reject them all together. Are we choosing to replace intimate proximal partnerships with virtual networks – and where may it lead us?

Quantity v quality

The language of ‘connections’ subtly usurps the language of ‘relationships’. Connections are ‘virtual relations’ entered and exited at the press of a button. In a virtual network connecting and disconnecting share the same status, are made on demand and broken at will. In a virtual network we are free to roam as we please and to terminate those connections which no longer interest or satisfy us. The old fashioned networks of ‘kinship’ and ‘partnership’ and ‘committed relationship’ are far more slow moving, clunky and messy than their virtual counterparts and certainly far more difficult to exit. Turnover is the cardinal measure of success in the consumer world. Consumer life favours lightness and speed. Variety and novelty are valued over durability. Commitment and sharing in this context lose their meaning and our appetites for interpersonal risk taking (relating) decline.

There is no doubt that in infinite ways technology improves and enhances our lives as individuals and communities. It is true too that wherever there is something gained there is inevitably something lost. So let us all remember to keep the bonds of human connection alive. Look up, make eye contact, maybe smile or say hello to the next person we stand next to in a queue or a lift. Face time for real! Let’s switch off our devices from time to time and not automatically grant them space at our tables when we commune with real life friends and family. And let’s leave them outside the bedroom door at the end of the day and reclaim that space for rest, restoration and good old human connection.

 

Gerry Gilmartin is an accredited, registered and experienced psychotherapeutic counsellor. She currently works with individuals (young people/adults) and couples in private practice. Gerry is available at our Brighton and Hove Practice.

 

Further reading by Gerry Gilmartin –

Paying attention to stress

Why does empathy matter?

What is Intimacy?

Love, commitment and desire in the age of choice

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Why do I do that? A Dramatherapist looks beneath the surface

I am a dramatherapist and I am talking today about one of my favourite subjects. I am going to explain the benefits of working with creativity in the therapy room.

When we are being creative we are using a part of our brain which does not relate to logic or linear time. This part of the brain thinks in pictures, metaphor and symbols. It is representational rather than objective. It endows personal subjectivity to our experience. It is what makes us human and unique. It records and remembers everything that has ever happened to us, every thought, every sensation, every feeling, every hope, every dream. What a storehouse of information waiting to be revealed!

But here’s the thing. Whereas we can easily access the logical part of our brain, so we know to carry an umbrella when it’s raining. We have learned this, it’s logical. Our creative brain thinks in pictures, sensations and emotions. Experiences and memories are recorded and stored in a different way which means they’re not always readily available for us as information because they reside outside of our awareness.

So for example: you’re normally a reasonably polite friendly person, but behind the wheel of your car you rage at other drivers and you don’t know why you do this. This behaviour stems from something in your psyche that is ‘out of your awareness’. So you can’t stop yourself doing it by simply noticing it and trying to change your behaviour. The interesting thing about this type of ‘out of awareness’ behaviour is that we can’t seem to learn from it no matter how hard we try.
This is where the dramatherapist armed with a creative toolkit can help. We know from research that when the mind is engaged in a creative task, the logical mind takes a back seat. It goes off-line and allows us to tap in to the resources that are held ‘out of awareness ‘ and hidden beneath the surface of our everyday experience.

Here we can see why we behave the way we do and where/ how  it originated. We can explore the triggers. In doing this we can actually heal our past experience and recover form it. And that’s what we want from therapy, right?

One way I get my clients to tap in to their ‘out of awareness’ experience, is to use a method called hot-penning. First of all I prepare my client using relaxation techniques to enable a clear focus on the issue at hand. The client then takes pen and paper and writes whatever comes to mind. The rule book is thrown out and the pen is given free reign. The writing need not be logical or sequential, it may be a stream of words, you’re allowed to swear, it does not have to make sense. After a couple of minutes of loosening up the client will generally begin to write meaningful narrative which can be very revealing. Clients are so frequently surprised by their own articulacy and the wisdom that they express. Quite often there will be the ‘a-ha’ moment.

In my experience when the client has insights unprompted by the therapist they are more motivated towards lasting change.

Dramatherapy as a creative therapy can help the client to begin to live more fully ‘in awareness’ and be less affected by ‘out of awareness’ behaviours which formerly tripped them up.

Magdalena Whitehouse is an experienced HCPC Registered Drama Therapist, working with individuals, couples and  groups. Magdalena is available at our Brighton and Hove Practice.

Further reading by Magdalena Whitehouse –
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Who might be helped by Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy

In second of two video interviews, Paul Salvage discusses who may benefit from psychoanalytic psychotherapy and explains how it has evolved since the days of Freud.  Paul is a UKCP registered psychoanalytic psychotherapist who works with individuals from our Hove practice.

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