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August 29, 2022 by BHP Leave a Comment

What is Psychotherapy?

Psychotherapy is a method of treating mental health issues through psychological, rather than medical means.

Known as ‘the talking cure’ a psychotherapist’s role is to work with patients or clients, generally on a minimum of a weekly basis, over a period of months or years. The work takes place within what is called a ‘therapeutic relationship’, characterised by the psychotherapist listening and thinking carefully about the client’s experience and working with them to make sense of it. Thus, whilst known as the talking cure, it could be more accurately described as the listening cure.

Psychotherapy developed from psycho-analysis, which is similar in nature, but involves multiple weekly sessions (up to five) and can often last for up to a decade. Freud referred to (psycho) analysis as a ‘cure through love’ and this applies to psychotherapy in much the same way. The relationship between psychotherapist and client is unique and one in which all the focus, attention and thought is about the client’s process. The closest example to this type of relationship is between mother and child, or primary-caregiver and child, and it is often due to failings in this primary attachment relationship that clients seek out psychotherapy in later life.

Do I need to have a mental illness to go into therapy?

Whilst it is very common for people to seek out the assistance, support and expertise of a psychotherapy due to them feeling like they are in a crisis in their life, the crisis is often only the catalyst that brings a client into psychotherapy. Indeed, it was once again Freud who said that psychotherapy (analysis) only begins once the patient’s crisis has passed. What did he mean by this?

One of the goals of psychotherapy is to bring space and contemplation into a person’s life so that they feel less at the mercy of their emotions and more able to hold themselves in mind. Once a crisis has passed, clients can often start to focus on using the therapeutic relationship and space to examine why they think and feel the way they do and to develop a construct or idea about who they would like to be. Psychotherapy is thus about getting in touch with our appetite, or passions.

Whilst most people access psychotherapy due to an issue covered by the term ‘mental health’, most remain for months or years in order to learn to have a better relationship with themselves and others.

How does psychotherapy work?

Human beings are relational beings, meaning that we are, from the moment we are conceived, in relationship to another. Relationships shape not only our worldview and our relationships to others in our life, but also shape our relationship to ourselves.

If we have learnt through early relationship(s) that others are unsafe and/or that we are not worthy of love then this shapes our worldview of all our relationships going forward. If we have been wounded in relationship then it takes another (therapeutic) relationship to work through all the hurt and to discover a new way of relating through how we are related to.

What training do psychotherapists have?

In the UK, the terms of psychotherapist and counsellor are not legally protected meaning that virtually anybody can use these terms with impunity.

Whilst some clinicians use the terms of counsellor and psychotherapist interchangeably, the UKCP (United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy) is the largest professional body for psychotherapy clinicians and lays out its training and membership expectations for clinical psychotherapist very clearly.

Psychotherapists in the UK (who are UKCP members) train for a minimum of four years at post-graduate level, undergoing their own psychotherapy throughout this period, obtain at least 450 clinical hours of experience and undertake a mental health placement. Most UKCP psychotherapists will therefore have a minimum of a Masters degree in the field.

What’s the difference between psychotherapy and counselling?

There is much disagreement about the differences between counselling and psychotherapy and this is something I have previously addressed here. Fundamentally, psychotherapists are trained to work at a deeper level than counsellors and have been trained to formulate – our word for diagnose.

How do I find a psychotherapist?

Finding a psychotherapist can feel daunting. Brighton and Hove Psychotherapy is a physical clinic comprised of a group of skilled clinicians offering psychotherapy across the greater Brighton and Hove area and Lewes. You can use our search function to find a psychotherapist near you.

Alternatively, the UKCP holds a directory of all registered UK based psychotherapists which can be found here.

Further reading by Mark Vahrmeyer –

How to improve mental health

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August 15, 2022 by BHP Leave a Comment

How to Improve Mental Health

Mental health is constantly in the news and not a day goes by without an article, blog post or news piece on the topic.

The great contradiction is that whilst we know more about mental health now and how to manage it, the busy, chaotic and plugged-in world we live in does little to help our mental health. Nor is it often that clear what exactly is meant by the term ‘mental health’.

Mental health is a ‘catch-all’ phrase that encompasses our emotional, psychological and social wellbeing. It therefore includes our mind, our emotional system and our social world. It stands to reason that good mental health means attending to all three, but I would argue that there is a fourth – the body – which is intrinsically connected to good mental health.

When people refer to their mental health, what are they really saying?

As I write this article, the media will have us believe that mental health is currently under crisis in the UK. Waiting times to see a mental health practitioner are at an all time high, people are increasingly struggling to cope with high stress levels and many folks remain isolated or fearful for social contact following the numerous and lengthy Covid lockdowns.

Poor mental health can manifest in a range of symptoms from low level depression and anxiety through to diagnosable psychiatric illnesses. For most people concerned about their mental health, the latter is fortunately not very common and therefore we can think about how you can take responsibility for improving your mental health.

Steps you can take

Sleep is crucial to good mental health and it is no coincidence that many of us struggle with poor sleep which ever time can have a very detrimental impact on our mental health (as well as our physical health).

Establish a sleep routine and stick to it – going to bed at a set time and avoiding stimulants such as caffeine before bed can be very helpful. Another stimulant that you would do well to avoid is watching the news prior to bed – whilst informative, the news impacts significantly on our nervous system and can leave us feeling ‘activated’ exactly when we need to get to sleep.

Exercise is good for the body, but also the mind. Many folks are put off exercise as they see it as something that involves strenuous exercise in a gym, however, this need not be the case.

Exercise does not need to cost anything and can be a way of combining being in nature with moving the body. A brisk walk or sea swim (in the midst of this heatwave) are both good forms of exercise.

Eating sensibly is another activity associated with physical health but which can also have a significant impact on our mental wellbeing. Stimulants such as coffee and sugar impact on moods and with this can in turn impact on sleep patterns, so be aware of when you consume stimulants and avoid eating anything late into the evening.

Socialising is not only enjoyable but is also good for our mental health. Human beings are relational, meaning that we are born into relationship and require relationship(s) to develop. Even when we are alone, in a psychological sense we are in relationship to someone – we call this an internal object – and constitutes how we hold ourselves in mind and make the ‘best’ choices for ourselves.

The mind body connection

All of our emotions stem from the body. They start as sensations and we then notice them and group them into emotions; feelings are the words we use to describe emotions.

Each feeling, or set of emotions, has its own somatic (body) blueprint, which means to say that each feeling is made up of a unique set of sensations in the body. For example, anger, whilst ‘feeling’ different for everyone has the in-common body sensations of tight stomach, tight jaw, clenched or tightened fists and a narrowing of the eyes. Conversely, joy, is felt in the body as an openness and moving towards something or someone. Joy tends to bring a smile to our face and it is as if our whole body opens to receive more of what we are enjoying.

Everyone has a different shaped and sized body and everyone has a body that can perform different tasks depending on fitness, ability, age and (dis)ability. However, unless a person has a ‘good enough’ relationship with their body, it is simply not possible to have good mental health.

Hence why the body must be included in psychotherapy and feelings stemming from the body attended to.

Practicing gratitude towards your body for what it can do and how it looks after you, getting curious about what your body needs and wants and treating your body with respect, are all significant pathways to good mental health.

Talk to someone

When things get too much it can be good to talk and whilst a social and support network is important, some things need to be thought about with a mental health professional such as a psychotherapist.

A psychotherapist is someone who has trained at postgraduate level for a minimum of four years and undergone their own journey of analysis or psychotherapy throughout their training and ideally well beyond. In the UK, psychotherapists are registered with the UKCP who hold a directory of qualified clinicians or you can search for one using the search function on our own website.

People generally enter in psychotherapy because of a crisis of some sort in their life, however, they tend to stay because they find the therapeutic relationship so invaluable in not only improving their mental health but in developing an appetite for their lives. As Freud said, psychotherapy (analysis) begins after the crisis has passed.

Further reading by Mark Vahrmeyer –

Mental health problems in Brighton

August 8, 2022 by BHP Leave a Comment

How do I find the right Psychotherapist?

Finding a psychotherapist can feel like a daunting task. For starters, the difference between a counsellor and psychotherapist may not immediately be apparent. Then there are the different modalities, or approaches to therapy. And lastly, there are the different professional bodies to make sense of.

The term ‘psychotherapist’, unlike ‘clinical psychologist’, is not a legally protected term in the UK. This means that there is very little to stop anyone claiming that they are a psychotherapist, without having undergone an accredited psychotherapy training (or indeed any training at all).

There is also, as of yet, no agreement across the different professional bodies as to what exactly constitutes a psychotherapist, which further muddies the water for anyone seeking psychotherapy.

If a client is wishing to go into therapy then my advice would be first and foremost to seek out a professional registered with either the UKCP or BACP and who can evidence significant clinical experience in the field. Both of these professional bodies have helpful websites which enables users to search for clinicians based on location, as well as other criteria.

Once you have a list of accredited psychotherapists, you may wish to consider which approach, or modality, in which the clinicians in question have been trained. Whilst this may seem confusing, it is important to remember that research has shown that it is the quality of the therapeutic relationship combined with the approach, that leads to the most successful outcomes in therapy. Therefore, look for a clinician who is able to explain how they think and work in clear and understandable language – remember, it is their job to help you understand how they can assist you, rather than you needing to figure it out by wading through complex jargon yourself.

Many people make the decision to seek out a psychotherapist when in a crisis. Whilst this is common and the sense of urgency strong, it is important to take the time to find the right ‘fit’ and this may mean contacting various clinicians, as well as attending potentially more than one initial consultation. When new clients come for an initial consultation with me, I always set a goal with them at the start of the session in suggesting that it is their job to work out whether they feel comfortable enough (but not too comfortable) working with me, and my job to work out if I believe that clinically, I can help them. This often comes as a surprise to new clients in that they are there to make a judgement and choice in relation to working with me, however, therapy needs to be a co-created and collaborative process from the outset.

How do I know if my therapist is right for me?

If you find that you are working with a therapist and it does not feel like you are getting what you hoped for or are feeling uncomfortable then raise this. As I stated earlier, psychotherapy is ‘work’ that two people undertake and a big part of the work is in establishing a particular kind of relationship – a therapeutic relationship – or alliance.

If your psychotherapist is unwilling to hear your concerns and to discuss these with you, then that is a strong warning sign that the person you are working with is not a good fit (and arguably not a very good clinician).

I suggested earlier that psychotherapy should be a process that feels supportive and comfortable, but not too comfortable – you have sought out a psychotherapist because you have a problem and want support. Your psychotherapist is not there to be your friend.

They are equally not there to collude with you, but to appropriately and mindfully challenge you.

I previously referenced the different approaches to psychotherapy – the methods. These can seem confusing – and even cause a fair bit of infighting amongst the therapeutic community! One way of thinking about these approaches is to consider them as ways of conceptualising, of thinking, about your inner world. It may be that after a period of time you discover the way your psychotherapist thinks simply does not ‘fit’ with the way you think. Remember, psychotherapy is about understanding the human mind and nobody has veer seen or touched a mind – it is a concept, a construct, and as such is shaped and brought to life by language.

What is ‘good’ psychotherapy?

There are many answers to the question – ‘what is psychotherapy?’ – which is another way of asking the question ‘what is good therapy?’. As there are so many ways of helping people make sense of their inner world, there are an equal number of answers as to the goals of therapy, however, there is commonality.

Rather than ‘good therapy’ being one thing, it can be better expressed as a formula: A solid frame combined with a containing relationship. Let me explain: Us psychotherapists frequently reference ; ‘the frame’ in psychotherapy and this refers to all the elements that enable a solid ‘containing’ relationship to form between the client and their therapist. The frame consists of a regular meeting day and time, a stable and unchanging consulting room, sessions that start and end on time, a therapist who is ready and attentive – these are some examples.

By ‘containing relationship’ we are talking about the very unique role that we, as psychotherapists, must play for our clients. We are there to think about the client every second of the encounter and must not make the relationship or sessions about us.

Therefore, when in psychotherapy, if you ask your psychotherapist a question – something such as ‘how was your weekend?’ – they will likely explore with you what lies behind the question before answering.

A containing psychotherapist is also one who can ‘survive’ their client – in other words, the client is free to express themselves how they wish and the job of the therapist is to be able to hold the boundary no matter what. When the frame and container are solid, that is a good starting point for successful therapy.

Can it be dangerous to see the wrong psychotherapist?

Let us assume that by ‘wrong’ therapist we are assuming a poor fit rather than any kind of abusive relationship, as clearly the latter presents significant risks to the client and would constitute a breach of the psychotherapist’s (BACP or UKCP) code of conduct.

Psychotherapy is, amongst other things, about helping client to understand their wants and needs and to help them put appropriate boundaries in place in relationships. If a client is continuing to see a psychotherapist where they are getting little to nothing from the sessions and feel that they cannot raise this, then this is only going to further undermine their self esteem and confidence which is utterly counter-productive to the process. This would be an example of the client’s experience in their relational world repeating in the therapy.

How important is it that my therapist is accredited and what should I look for?

As I have previously highlighted, psychotherapy remains largely formally unregulated in the UK. Membership of the various professional bodies is voluntary and for clients, it can be hard to distinguish between them.

As a UKCP registered psychotherapist I am acutely aware of the rigorous training standards of my professional body and understand the level of training that other psychotherapists, irrespective of their modality, have received who are fellow members.

Anyone crossing the threshold of a psychotherapist’s consulting room has been on the receiving end of some degree of neglect or abuse in their childhood. This makes them susceptible to further relational injury from working with someone who either is misrepresenting themselves, or has received inadequate training to understand their
limitations.

Mark Vahrmeyer is available at our Brighton and Hove practice and the Lewes Practice.

Further reading by Mark Vahrmeyer