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May 6, 2020 by Brighton & Hove Psychotherapy Leave a Comment

Educational Psychotherapy (2) – developing empathy, mind-mindedness and self-discovery

In Educational Psychotherapy (1), I explain how Educational Psychotherapy first evolved and how, as an approach, it can help promote social and emotional development as well as the thinking skills required for learning.  This was illustrated through the aspects of a child’s first six months in therapy. Here, I highlight three areas of further progress over the next 12 months of work with the same child. Again, this account is disguised and anonymised.

Empathy and feeling understood

One of the most exciting benefits of Sammy’s becoming more emotionally literate was the opening it allowed for me to make connections between his experiences with family and friends and his feelings and then providing empathy for Sammy’s felt experience.  This enabled Sammy both to feel held and understood by me at an emotional level and to experience his feelings as making sense. Over time, Sammy came to welcome this and it seemed to encourage him to actively seek openings to make further connections between his experiences past and present and his thoughts, feelings and behaviours.

Mind-mindedness and social connection

Early on in the therapy, Sammy found it difficult to engage in wondering about his own mind or about others’ minds, in either imaginary or real contexts.  There were times when he seemed to think I should have already known what he was thinking. Things began to shift when trust developed and Sammy allowed himself to become more openly curious about me, what my life might be like and how I might perceive him.  He grew increasingly accepting of the idea that I had a mind separate to his and that learning about each other involved a shared process. He started to wonder about my own mental state and thoughts, perhaps partly in response to my modelling of a mentalising approach with him.  This capacity to be “mind-minded” was also reflected in Sammy’s accounts of social interactions at school when he openly wondered about various students’ motivations for particular actions and how they might have been feeling about a situation.  This included an understanding that people might have mixed feelings at times.

Therapeutic journey

It was Sammy’s journey of mental-emotional-social self-discovery which came to shape the bulk of our sessions and it was an encouraging and rewarding journey to be a part of.  The significance to Sammy of this work became increasingly evident as I began to talk about the sessions coming to an end several months before the final session.  Sammy found this very hard and would avoid or deny the subject in various ways.  However, in time, we were able to talk more about what this avoidance meant and Sammy moved into a period of some weeks when, unprompted, he became highly reflective about what the sessions had meant to him, bringing in memories of particular activities and commenting on changes which he felt had taken place within himself.  He also made reference to ways in which our working relationship had changed.  He spoke with confidence and resilience and a certain assurance that his memory would remain in my mind after our sessions had come to an end – and it has!

 

Brighton and Hove Psychotherapy is a collective of experienced psychotherapists, psychologists and counsellors working with a range of client groups, including fellow therapists and health professionals. If you would like more information, or an informal discussion please get in touch with us. Online therapy is available.

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Filed Under: Child Development, Families, Society Tagged With: adolescent psychotherapy, child therapy, family therapy

April 8, 2020 by Brighton & Hove Psychotherapy Leave a Comment

Educational Psychotherapy: (1) supporting social-emotional development and learning

Educational Psychotherapy was developed by Irene Caspari in the 1970s, an Educational Psychologist working at the Tavistock Clinic in London.  She was interested in understanding learning difficulties from a psychoanalytic and attachment perspective. In order to address both learning needs and emotional difficulties together, she pioneered a method of blending structured (educational) tasks and free expression within a 50-minute weekly therapy session.  Treatment usually lasts 1-2 years but some work continues for longer or is adapted for shorter periods or extended assessments. Trainees are typically experienced teachers or learning support staff and undergo their own therapy during training. Many continue to work in schools and adapt their learning to therapeutic teaching and attachment-aware, trauma-informed practice.  

What follows is an anonymised, disguised case study which illustrates how Educational Psychotherapy can begin to support social-emotional development and learning.

11-year-old Sammy was referred for therapy by his key worker on account of difficulties he was having with relationships, expressing and understanding emotions and understanding the world. An earlier Educational Psychology assessment had suggested that high levels of anxiety were impacting on Sammy’s capacity to make full use of learning.  Therapy took place over 18 months.  

Sammy soon engaged with a variety of word, number and drawing games and activities, offered within the context of a supportive relationship.  Tasks which combined cognition, physical activity and relational connection proved an effective way to build trust, stimulate thought and enliven Sammy’s felt experience in the room.  Shared story writing and the free use of paint and clay facilitated expression and imagination. Conversation also had a significant place, at the point of checking in, within and around activities and, over time, for sustained periods.

Over the first 6 months of therapy, progress became evident in the following foundational areas:

Sense of self and reciprocal interaction
Sammy came to enjoy the process of co-creation with craft activities and solving problems together, including making up physical word and number games and negotiating the rules between us.  He became more comfortable with what he didn’t know  and embraced the opportunity to find things out, explore new skills and introduce me to new areas of learning.  Sammy also started to talk more about himself and grew comfortable with the routine of checking in at the start of a session, when he would share a happy achievement or discovery or an experience of frustration, disappointment or confusion.

Tasks and learning

Persevering at a challenging task requires the use of Executive Function skills, such as being able to monitor and evaluate where the difficulty lies, use problem solving skills to work out and plan the next steps, use working memory, inhibit distracting thoughts and so on.  Young people like Sammy, who have difficulties in these areas, require considerable “scaffolding” to help them develop and practice skills and tools for thinking. To begin with, Sammy found it hard to take instruction or support from me but as trust grew he became a little more comfortable with not knowing and clearly more curious.  My sense was that a space for thinking opened up in his mind which enabled him not to panic but to consider what was required next in order to proceed. 

Thinking about and talking about feelings

The development of a language for feelings was a significant area of development.  In early sessions, Sammy would habitually say that everything was “fine” or “normal”, almost seeming oblivious to the relevance of emotional experience or reflection.  After a time, Sammy disclosed that he had been getting into rages at home and taking out his feelings on objects which had sometimes become broken.  He acknowledged that this was confusing, upsetting and problematic for him and that he wanted help with it.  Activities like squeezing paint directly onto paper or working with clay enabled Sammy to express himself viscerally and then reflect on how he connected with the images created.  We also thought about activities Sammy could do at home to self-regulate.  

In time, thinking about feelings became an area that Sammy would actively seek.  He talked about experiencing fear and how this had caused him to adopt particular behaviours as an avoidance mechanism.  It seemed that the naming of these fears was enough to create some distance and enable Sammy to make a choice about how he wanted to act.  Sammy also talked about sadness and acknowledged that he had grown used to keeping his feelings to himself.  He started to voluntarily make links between his expressive material in artwork and his own thoughts and feelings inside.  

 

In part, these conversations involved psycho-education, helping Sammy to understand more about how feelings work, that it is normal to experience a wide range of feelings and that it can help to be self-aware and to share some of what we feel with trusted others.  At times, we were able to do this through playing board games or through role-play with miniatures.  Sammy showed that he could recognise the difference between actions held in mind and actions lived and that he could think hypothetically about possible future consequences of taking a particular course of action.  

This phase of the work paved the way for more profound developments which were to follow.  Sammy was now ready to take more risks. (Read more about this in Educational Psychotherapy (2) – article will be published shortly).

 

Brighton and Hove Psychotherapy is a collective of experienced psychotherapists, psychologists and counsellors working with a range of client groups, including fellow therapists and health professionals. If you would like more information, or an informal discussion please get in touch with us. Online therapy is available.

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Filed Under: Child Development, Parenting Tagged With: adolescent psychotherapy, child therapy, family therapy

October 29, 2018 by Brighton & Hove Psychotherapy Leave a Comment

Adolescence: the trials and tribulations

In this blog, I want to briefly outline some of the reasons I like working with adolescents and what are perhaps some of the key struggles faced by adolescents, their carers’ and those who work with or alongside them.

One of the most famous depictions of adolescents’ in my memory is probably Kevin, of Kevin and Perry fame, a very funny, exaggerated, but not unrecognizable depiction of a ‘teenager’. Kevin is by turns, childlike, demanding, exasperated at his parents, however reasonable they try and be, and genuinely struggling with the desire to experience the thrills adult world as he sees it and his unbearable lack of experience and shyness.

I think a good indicator of how it hits a note, is that some of the teenagers I know well, loved this depiction and found it hilarious.

What the characters focus is on the conflict the adolescent faces in needing to leave the world of childhood and its unquestioned dependence on caregivers, to somehow find their own identity. This can involve a painful, but perhaps temporary jettisoning of everything the parental figures seem to represent, however benign they may or may not be.

I think the pleasure and the pain of working with adolescents is how they remind us of some of the fundamental conflicts of, all of our lives, sometime ones, we have dealt with by; ‘letting sleeping dogs lie.’

Adolescents are suddenly faced with issues of what sex is, or means, how to belong or not and whether they may or may not want to. They are often in a position of having to make serious life  choices, with only really a very limited knowledge of what those choices may mean.

The Psychotherapist Adam Phillips, writes, that in working with adolescents; “Violent feelings, dejection, sexual obsession, serious self-doubt and terrible self-image are something everyone who is at all awake can’t help but feel” …and that “Anyone who does this work with any real commitment will feel destabilised by it”.

So why do it?

I think because of precisely these issues, working with adolescents reminds us of what it is to be human, to be alive to the rawness of experience, the thrills, the highs and the lows. Adolescents’ are serious about this and often dedicate a great deal of thought about it, and finally as Phillips notes, that, ‘despite sometimes overwhelming feeling of powerlessness and disturbance,’, they can be, ‘committed pleasure seekers; something we as adults are not always so good at.’

Brighton and Hove Psychotherapy is a collective of experienced psychotherapists, psychologists and counsellors working with a range of client groups, including fellow therapists and health professionals. If you would like more information, or an informal discussion please get in touch. Online therapy is available.

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Filed Under: Psychotherapy Tagged With: adolescent psychotherapy, Mental Health

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