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Why you are not your attachment style

Attachment theory is everywhere. TikTok, YouTube and Instagram are filled with videos explaining anxious attachment, avoidant partners, fearful-avoidant relationships and the supposed signs that somebody is emotionally unavailable. For many people, this language can be genuinely helpful, offering a framework through which to understand why closeness feels difficult, why reassurance never seems sufficient, or why…