Despite sex being used to sell everything from perfume to cars, talking about sex in a frank and open way still feels mostly taboo in our society. This can make talking about sexual issues difficult, leading to feelings of shame and isolation which further exacerbate the problem.
Sexual issues is a term covering a very wide range of possible meanings and can refer to feelings of sexual incompatibility in a relationship, low sex drive, physical sexual problems and through to pornography addiction and sex addiction.
Our inner sexual worlds are incredibly complex and can be very hard to comprehend and accept. Applied psychologists refer to sexuality as being ‘traumatic’ for us for this reason and yet despite this, through finding a language through which we can begin to express ourselves and our sexuality, pain and trauma around our sexuality can begin to heal.
People often believe that their sexuality, sexual preference, sexual orientation or sexual fantasies are wrong or dangerous. This is rarely the case. But even where we may find we are fantasising about people or activities that are in contradiction to our beliefs, through careful work it is often the case that these fantasies have some traumatic undertone from the past that may not even be sexual in nature, but that we have unconsciously sexualised in order to overcome the trauma.
How we can help
Psychotherapy and counselling can help you start to come to terms with your sexual identity and enable you to make choices that are reflective of who you are as an integrated human being. To find out more get in touch with us today.