Being in a romantic relationship is hard. Gone are the days when we would have prescribed gender roles, prescribed sexual orientations and limited life spans, meaning that we would likely only survive until we had raised our brood. Of course it is great that all of the above have (largely) been consigned to the past in our affluent Western societies, however, the pace of change has been so fast that with our new found freedoms, our lengthy life spans, our increasing social isolation, relationships can feel under a lot of pressure.
The key to any healthy relationship is communication. This may sound simple and yet it is surprising how few couples communicate effectively and in a safe and contained fashion. Shouting, yelling and fighting is all communication, however, it tends to be very ineffective at getting us what we want and if it does, it is always at the expense of our partner.
How we can help
We are experienced at working with same sex and heterosexual couples and with polyamory through to monogamy. It is not our job to judge the choices you jointly make in your relationship, however, the key word here is JOINTLY. Unfortunately, how couples tend to get together is that they learn about being in relationship from their parents, seek out a partner who somehow complements their wounds and then both parties end up recreating problems that arose in their families of origin.
Whether you are seeking couple therapy or wish to work through your relationships issues as an individual, our psychotherapists can support you in evaluating what choices are an expression of you as an individual and how you can safely, but effectively, start to create a relationship based on communication, understanding and passion.
To find out about the help Brighton & Hove Psychotherapy can offer get in touch with us today.