Deciding to come to counselling or therapy can be a daunting decision. Some people still view the decision to come to counselling or therapy as one of weakness and a sign that they cannot cope when they should. This belief is unhelpful and could not be further from the reality. Recognising that we have a challenge, problem or issue that we wish to tackle takes courage and is a way of taking responsibility for our life in a healthy and constructive way with a focus on change.
At Brighton and Hove Psychotherapy, we firstly identify how we can help you and then work with you to achieve your goals for change enabling you to take more and more responsibility for your life and your future, leaving the traumas of the past behind. We offer counselling and psychotherapy for individuals, couples, families and groups.
Generally we find that our clients come to see us for help or support with issues falling into one of these areas:
Life can at times become overwhelming or behaviour traits that we have kept under control up until now can get the better of us. When we are in a period of crisis, counselling or psychotherapy can be invaluable in enabling us to regain some control of our lives and in breaking painful or difficult patterns or in coming to terms with loss. Present crises can be just that – an overwhelming situation that we need support in navigating – or it can be a trigger that has caused a past unresolved trauma to resurface in our life which is making it difficult to separate our present experience from our past wounds.
Often people choose to come into therapy at a time when they wish to reflect on how they are living their lives and become more aware of how the choices we are making contribute directly to our experience of being in the world and relating to ourselves and others. We cannot choose everything that happens to us, but through therapy we can learn to choose how we are in relation to what has happened / is happening to us. Deeper therapeutic change happens when we are in regular therapy and have time and space to think about who we are and how we are experiencing the world, our relationships with others and our relationship with ourself: in other words, long-term change can be considered when we are not in crisis.
Counselling can be useful in helping us discover what we want and how we can go about making that a reality. This may sound simple, but often we repress our desires out of fear of the consequences – we find we are scared of getting what we want. Avoiding our desire and seeking safety, leaves us feeling anxious, depressed and lacking a sense of fulfilment and meaning. Clients also use psychotherapy as a tool to enable them to remain ‘on-track’ and focused on their goals and objectives. In this sense ongoing psychotherapy becomes an invaluable tool in enabling us to cope and thrive in our lives.
Being in a relationship is never easy. It is common for couples to find themselves in a crisis or unable to relate to each other at some point in their relationship. Couple therapy enables you and your partner to feel supported as you are guided in re-establishing honest communication with each other, so that you can work out how best to move forward in your relationship. You may rediscover what originally brought you together; you may need to move out of painful and dysfunctional patterns of relating to create a new relationship. Or, it may mean that the relationship has run its course. Couple therapy provides a safe, supportive and facilitative environment to focus on your relationship. As couple therapists we are not invested in whether you stay together or split. Our goal is to help you both work out what you want and to assist you in establishing a dialogue together.
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